When Gretchen talked with Julia, she was relieved to hear that Julia didn’t visit Jay’s room at his frat house. Many times girls sent off to college are warned not to go to a guy’s room or apartment alone. Often when a girl is given a rule like that, she’ll initially agree with it, inwardly committing to follow it. Yeah, that’s good advice. I’ll be careful not to do that. Yet later, when she’s interested in spending time with a guy, she’ll make an exception. I know I said I wouldn’t do this, but with Josh it’s different. He’d never do anything to hurt me. Trustingly, she goes alone to his apartment and disregards the wise advice that made so much sense to her at an earlier time.
If nothing negative happens that first time, she begins to feel confident in her ability to judge a guy’s character and intentions. She makes that exception more and more until her commitment to take precautions simply fades away.
The problem with compromising wise principles? You gradually let your guard down, potentially opening the door to someone that will harm you. You may find yourself in unprotected places with someone that you think is safe but really isn’t.
Something to think about: No one gets ready for a date planning to be raped later on in the evening! It only takes one time alone with the wrong person to experience something truly painful.
It’s not wrong to be a trusting person, but when it comes to our safety and protection, we must be diligent to think ahead and make the wisest choices possible.
Wise choices will watch over you. Understanding will keep you safe. Proverbs 2:11 (NLT)
Journal to the Lord about your commitment to protect yourself. Ask God to grant you wisdom in each scenario you face—to keep you from making repeated exceptions that break down your resolve to stick to the rules (rules that could end up saving your life).
*The above is an excerpt from The Journal (workbook for novel one)