During our last post, we began a discussion on the value of outward vs/ inward beauty. Beauty is a complicated topic, mainly because we all have an idea of what beauty is, and those opinions can differ from person to person.
For example, if I were to list several celebrity names, like Jennifer Aniston, Beyonce, Taylor Swift, Rihanna, Demi Lovato, and Jennifer Lawrence, some people would say that each of these women was incredibly beautiful. Yet some people would not. So if someone thinks, for example, that Jennifer Aniston isn’t beautiful, does that mean she is not? Or does it just mean that different people have different ideas of beauty, no reflection on Jennifer? Is she still beautiful whether or not some people see it?
Some of you reading this are working really hard to “become beautiful” for a certain boy—when you already are beautiful! (whether he recognizes it or not)
Remember: outward beauty is subjective (in the eye of the beholder). Yet true beauty is more than what people see on the outside. Your heart matters, too. In fact, it matters the most!
But the LORD told him, “Samuel, don’t think Eliab is the one just because he’s tall and handsome. He isn’t the one I’ve chosen. People judge others by what they look like, but I judge people by what is in their hearts.” 1 Samuel 16:7 (CEV)
And because of what was in young David’s heart, he was the one chosen to be the next king.
Another version says: …For the LORD does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart. (NKJ)
Isn’t that comforting? To know that no matter what people think of our outside, God looks at our hearts and loves us completely! And that is where we find our value, in what God thinks of us and His overwhelming love and acceptance of us. (That’s how, as I explained in my last post, during junior high I could feel outwardly unattractive and yet valuable at the same time!)
Actually, a beautiful spirit (inward beauty) can take an “ordinary girl” by the world’s standards and cause people to see her genuine beauty, just through the lovely way she treats people and conducts herself. People who value themselves are hard not to admire. In the same way, no amount of makeup or Botox can make up for a mean spirit. That ugly seeps through and genuinely affects how people view that person as well.
Now we cannot get carried away and eliminate the importance of taking care of ourselves on the outside. We are instructed to take care of our bodies as God’s temple. (1 Cor 6:19-20) And man does look on the outward appearance, as the verse in 1 Samuel says, so people will have a hard time accepting what you’re saying about God if you smell, have unwashed matted hair, or dress like you don’t care about yourself.
And if you are waiting for your Mr. Right, let’s be honest: he is going to being looking for a wife who is attractive inside AND out. (Notice, I didn’t say Hollywood perfect! But taking-good-care-of-yourself attractive. After all, aren’t you looking for a guy who takes care of himself inside & out? Not many of us would be attracted to an unhealthy, dirty mess! While he is still a valuable person, we wouldn’t want to marry him.)
So it’s not that the outside doesn’t matter at all. (It does matter, and we should take good care of ourselves, making healthy choices as we celebrate the person God created us to be. We can even have fun with it, doing so in lots of girly ways, like appropriate makeup, jewelry, and clothes.) But that all should be secondary to what’s going on inside of you. It’s who you are on the inside that will really make you shine!
Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 1 Peter 3:3-4 (NKJ)
Being precious to God is the main focus. AND, if attended to, that inner beauty will always be there, even when time passes and physical appearance naturally adjusts. You can continue to be a beautiful woman in each stage of your life—if you have a beautiful spirit.
Again, there is lots more we could say, but let’s end our discussion here with one final thought:
You are beautiful and valuable because God made you and loves you. Purpose in your heart to just have fun with all the rest.
Love you, beautiful girls!