Happily Ever After

17 Oct

If we watch movies and the media, we’re promised that romance with a handsome guy will put us on a sure path to Happily Ever After, where one can live in a constant state of happiness—no more loneliness or tears. Who wouldn’t want to go there? But is that place even real? Unfortunately, this land ceased to exist on Earth when Adam and Eve disobeyed God; it’s been moved to Heaven and awaits our arrival.

Imperfect people now live on our planet, and good relationships don’t just happen on their own here. Falling in love is easy, but staying in love takes work. In fact, many times people get into relationships for merely self-centered reasons. We’re often searching for a guy to meet our needs, emotionally and physically, just as he is looking for a woman to meet his.

In the first novel of the Mr. Right Series (Waiting for Mr. Right), Julia Duncan went away to college looking for a boyfriend. When she found one, her romantic dream soon turned into a nightmare. Why? Neither Julia nor Jay was in the relationship for the right reasons. Each was seeking to fulfill a personal need at the other’s expense.

Julia learned the hard way that it was foolish to date someone until she was at a stage in her life where dating could lead to a marriage commitment. As a Christian, she realized that her priorities were out of order, that she needed to make Jesus her first love before she would be able to commit to a man with the kind of selfless love that is necessary for a fulfilling and lasting marriage.

Gaining the maturity, skills, and knowledge to be a good wife requires effort. God created marriage; He alone knows how it must function to be successful and rewarding. I foolishly rushed into a bad relationship as a young woman and married Mr. Wrong. The marriage ended in heartache two years later. My story will be posted tomorrow if you would like to read it!

As you do, you’ll see how turning to God led me to my Mr. Right and how applying lessons from the Bible has enabled us to build a meaningful life together for the past 43 years. Our journey as man and wife has presented us with some real challenges along the way, as well as the need to forgive each other often, but it has been and continues to be wonderful and precious.

Be encouraged that while you are here on Earth, the One who loves you most is walking close beside you and will never leave you or forsake you. He is the only One who can meet your deepest needs and then make your marriage the beautiful relationship He created it to be. He has special plans for your life, so always remember: you are loved—and you are not alone!


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2 Responses to “Happily Ever After”

  1. 365 Acts of Love October 17, 2011 at 4:56 pm #

    Thanks for sharing this. Relationships take work! Living a Spirit-filled life helps (this involves having a close relationship with the Father). Also, deciding daily to love your spouse helps. In my relationship with my wife, it’s been a while since I’ve actively pursued a romantic relationship with her. The effects of this are evident. To change this, I’ve embarked on a year-long project to commit a loving act for my wife every day for a year. I’m 18 days in and I already notice a difference. I want my wife to feel loved!

  2. mrrightseries October 17, 2011 at 5:01 pm #

    @365 Acts of Love: That sounds like an amazing goal for the year! I pray your wife feels loved & valued and that this year will be the best one yet for you two. : )

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