Dating = ?

12 Mar

In my last post, I pointed out that, unlike the arranged-marriage and courtship eras of the past, modern dating practices serve as a social avenue for couples to meet and have fun—often with no serious marriage intentions.

Since dating today is seen as more about having fun/being in a relationship instead of moving toward a lifetime marriage commitment, sensible dating protocol is not always practiced. There are no clear rules today about how, when, and where couples meet and spend time together. Anything goes, in many people’s minds, and that sets them up to be hurt and taken advantage of in real ways. Plus, the starting age for dating now includes young teens and even pre-teens. (Flip on the TV to see that the pressure to have a boyfriend starts younger and younger.)

Dating is portrayed as incredibly fun, cool, necessary, and something you should be doing regardless of stage of life, maturity level, or commitment to the long run. But has our current dating culture produced the happy ending promised?

Because society has drifted so far from known Scriptural boundaries and wisdom, unwise dating practices have contributed to these increasing, heart-breaking results:

  • premarital sex becoming the norm, as are rejection & emotional problems from dating relationships that “didn’t work out”
  • STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases) Did you know that while condoms make sex “safer” against getting pregnant, they are not 100% guaranteed and do NOT keep one safe from STDs?
  • date rape becoming a term we all know
  • unplanned pregnancies
  • abortions
  • couples living together instead of marrying
  • painful divorce rate among those who do marry

This list is in no way exhaustive, and many of these things occurred in past generations. Yet the extent that we are seeing them today should raise red flags for us. As the moral standards of our day have plummeted, the above incidents have skyrocketed. Dating without any restrictions or safeguards opens the door to many high-risk behaviors that lead to devastating consequences.

Hopefully, by reading the Mr. Right Series, you will learn wiser dating principles that can be applied as you navigate life in today’s culture. These novels were written to help you recognize your constant need for God and to encourage you to incorporate His higher ways and thoughts into everything you do.

“For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:9

If your goal is to one day marry, refuse to date around indiscriminately. Let God lead as you trust Him for the right relationship. I can tell you from personal experience, He knows what you need and want and will write a beautiful love story for you if you let Him. I’m living proof!

Because I care,


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